Convincing Your Friend That They Have A Soul

Understanding the existence and importance of the human soul has a profound impact on a person’s worldview.

Whether you are engaged in a conversation regarding the existence of God, explaining the intrinsic value of your friend’s life during a difficult time, or perhaps taking a stand for the protection of the unborn, conveying the concept of the human soul provides helpful and relevant insight into the theology that forms the Christian worldview.

While there are many pertinent verses in Scripture that deal with the soul, it may be necessary to first establish that belief in the concept of the human soul is a reasonable and, in fact, logical outcome of several key observations.

Talking through the following concepts can allow you to simultaneously expose a person to an understanding of what the soul is and help them arrive at the correct conclusion that they indeed have one (or more accurately are one).

Every person, whether an atheist, Buddhist, or Christian has a deeply held understanding of their own identity. Pivoting off of this basic point you can begin to examine important observations which reveal that this sense of identity cannot be tied to our material bodies or even our immaterial consciousness, but is a product of the human soul.

Observation 1: Our Identity is Not in our Possessions or Position

Even the most worldly of individuals would be quick to agree that who we are is not determined by what we possess. Similarly, our true identity cannot be found in our profession or other status symbol. Although many people sadly live as though this were not true, it is easy to see that even a person who is stripped of material goods and status still maintains their identity as a unique individual.

Though their outward circumstances have been changed, they remain the same person. Our personal identity cannot be linked to our jobs, wealth, friends, or any other worldly possession.

Observation 2: Our Identity is Not in our Physical Bodies

Think about the following: We are always moving forward in time; with each passing second we are getting older. It is natural to reflect on our current selves and conclude that “this is who I am.”

Questions of identity are typically answered by referencing our current physical, mental, environmental, and/or emotional status. Keep in mind, however, that this moment is fleeting. You were once younger, and will very soon be older than you are now. Were  you still “you” when you were 8 years old?

Certainly you are the same person, and a 30-year-old man would be quite correct in identifying their childhood self as also being “them.” If the person you’re speaking with lives another 20 years, will they still be the same person? Of course.

Your friend will maintain their identity throughout their lives, because it is not tied to a solitary moment (or even entire phase) of life.

So what does this have to do with our soul? Consider the fact that nearly every cell in the human body is regenerated every seven years. Does this change in the very building blocks of our material bodies alter in any way who we are as individuals? No, it does not.

A person whose cells have “changed out” is not a different person. Even on a more macro level, the physical characteristics of a person are vastly different when comparing their 5-year-old and 50-year-old selves. It is clear that our personal identity cannot be considered to be a product of our ever-changing physical bodies.

Observation 3: Our Identity is Not in our Minds

One possible response to the previous observation is that our identity is not made up of our physical bodies, but by the experiences we have accumulated throughout our lives.

In essence, this would be to claim that our identity is based in our minds; our personal and unique consciousness defines who we are.

On the surface, this reasoning seems to satisfy what is lacking in the physical body’s ability to be the core of our personal identities. The mind is something that travels with us from infancy through old age, so it may be believed that we are the product of the experiences that we have had and the knowledge we have acquired.

However, this explanation also falls short. Think of those who for one reason or another lose their mental capacity or have their memories taken away due to a disease such as Alzheimers. Are they still the same human person? Such individuals still maintain their identity, despite a lack of cognizance regarding their accumulated experiences and knowledge.

Our identity can not be tied to our immaterial mental consciousness because we remain our unique selves even if this is reduced or completely taken away. The human soul is distinct from our hearts and minds (MT 22:37).


All people have an understanding that they possess a unique identity. By processing the above observations it becomes clear that this identity cannot be attributed to our possessions, physical bodies, or our unique minds.

Instead, our identity is found elsewhere: our eternal soul. While the above conversation points are not intended to paint a more detailed picture of the God of Scripture and the nature of our sinful souls in need of salvation, they can go a long way in introducing a person to the concept of their true identity as a spiritual being.

The majority of our daily thoughts are dedicated to relatively trivial matters, but a conversation which turns to the above points can force us to engage with the bigger questions in life.

Sincerely questioning “Who am I?” begins a deep philosophical and theological examination of our own identity. So what are the consequences of reaching the conclusion that you, and all people, are an eternal soul?

Such a revelation can lead a person to seek answers to several important questions, including:

  • How it is that we came to be indwelled with such a spiritual component?
  • If our souls are not tied to our physical bodies, what happens to our identity when we die?
  • If every person is an eternal, valuable soul, how then should we live in society?

Such questions have profound impact on how we live our lives, seek after God, and interact with those around us. Understanding that we can only link our true identity to our God-given souls is an important step on the journey of faith.

  1. Hi Clay, Great read, thanks for posting. If you’re taking suggestions as to what readers would like to learn more about, I’d love to see a piece about the reformed view of the body, mind, spirit debate (dichotomy vs trichotomy). I’ve always considered soul and spirit to be synonymous, but struggle with texts like First Thessl 5:23 and Hebr 4:12 (and maybe even Romans 8:16, too) which seem to refer to three parts of man. I’d love to hear your take on it. Thanks for considering it! Warmly, Liza

  2. Steve does point out an interesting thought about DNA. And while I am not learned enough in the field of biological sciences to answer this question authoritatively, it appears to me that Clayton is most likely correct in that this does fall within the points made in Observation #2. In the process of regenerating, it would make sense that our DNA signature (coded info) remains the same even though existing cells die off and new ones created. I liken this to the multiple printings of a book. Same info each time printed, but new physical body of paper and ink.

  3. Hi Clay,

    Nice article and great reminders. I’m a believer and certainly believe in the existence of the soul and I’ve heard some of these arguments before – particularly the argument that every cell in the body gets replaced periodically. But one thing I’ve never heard addressed is the issue of DNA. It seems like more and more, legally (in criminal courts) that is becoming the one irrefutable evidence of our identity. And DNA does not change from the moment you’re conceived until you die. Each cell has a copy of that DNA and it doesn’t change. So it seems that at least one aspect of our identity is tied to something physical.

    Do you have any thoughts on that?


    1. Hi Steve – Thanks for reading and sharing your thoughts. You raise a good point that a case might be made for an individual’s unique identity could be found in their physical bodies with DNA. However, since our DNA is located within our cell structure it could likely still fall within the points being made in Observation 2 above.

      Thomas Aquinas called theology “the queen of the sciences.” I agree with that statement, but I think we would need a person who is more acquainted with the physical sciences to answer your question best. Either way, it is certainly worth more thought; I’m glad you brought it up!

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